A man is required by God to disconnect his feelings from his duty. This is not because a man doesn’t have them. A good man is not cold and heartless. But a good man represents Jesus rightly by bearing his own feelings as well as the feelings of others, specifically those people entrusted to his care. The man who dumps his feelings whether in an emotional puddle or in an outburst of anger is misrepresenting Christ. But a Christian man bears them patiently, cheerfully because He knows the gospel. He knows that he has an older brother named Jesus who has borne it all.
This is not stoicism or apathy. Rightly understood, this is just faithful obedience to our Lord. Feelings are not holy. They have no automatic rightful place in the world. Feelings may be as sinful as thoughts and actions and words. You have no innate right to your feelings. And they are not exactly the same thing as the pain you feel when you stub your toe. Of course there’s the “ouch” factor, but hurt feelings may be completely disobedient to Jesus. Anger may be in complete rebellion to Jesus. There is a time to mourn; there is a time for rejoicing.
The central command to men is specifically to imitate Christ: take responsibility, give yourself up, and graciously, firmly put things right. Giving yourself up is the hardest part, and I suggest that it often means killing your feelings. You have no feelings: all you have is Christ. You love God with all you are. You have the fruits of His Spirit. What else is there? Most of what’s left is that craven, sickly demon called “self” that longs to be served, honored, fed, and worshipped. And to Hell with that.
And just to be clear: this should in no way be taken as an exhortation to be cold, distant, or unsympathetic with others. But just the opposite in fact. By killing your own feelings, you actually open yourself up to be sympathetic, gracious, cheerful, and compassionate to those in need. But this takes a firm, resolved commitment to do your duty, to do what is right, to give yourself up.